Does Men's 'Bond' with Porn Ruin Them for Real-Life Sex?

The instant availability of pornography on the internet is a serious, life-altering problem for some people, leading to secrecy, shame, and addiction. It can ruin a marriage, and ruin a life.

But what of the rest of pornography's casual users? Research is beginning to point to the problem of disconnect for men from real sexual experience with their live partners. Men (who are the heaviest users of pornography of all kinds) can become so accustomed to the rush and impersonal nature of pornography they can lose attention, desire and connection with their own partners.

Here's a recent article from TIME Magazine:

Does Men's 'Bond' with Porn Ruin Them for Real-Life Sex?

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