Monday, March 28, 2011

Saturday, March 12, 2011

Boy brain, girl brain: How the sexes act differently - image 2 - life - 08 March 2011 - New Scientist

Male and female brains really are different - but not in ways you may think.

Boy brain, girl brain: How the sexes act differently - image 2 - life - 08 March 2011 - New Scientist

Empathy First

I recently had a conversation with a mentor, in which I was the subject. Sharing as I was, I was surprised to find myself feeling increasingly confused and annoyed. I kept talking, and continued to listen to the detailed feedback, but I felt increasingly alone, misunderstood and distressed. Why?

Because the first thing I needed, and expected, I think, was some empathy. It wasn't therapy, but it was still very personal conversation. I expected more support and companionable sensitivity. Emotional affinity. That wasn't what I experienced.

So I was reminded - in a very personal way - that the very first thing that I must bring to the therapy or supervision conversation, the first thing I offer to the one who sits, vulnerable, across from me in my office, is compassion. Understanding.

Empathy first. It's the necessary start of healing.

Dying to Live - original by Nataly Dawn

Sunday, March 6, 2011

The Lutheran | Loving the enemy: An increasing number of fragile and vulnerable people are in our pews

Pr. Olbert has written an article that may have saved me from years and years of suffering had I read it 20 years ago. Personality disorders, something I know a great deal about now, wreak damage, suffering and sadness in the church by the bucket load. Thanks to him for placing the pain in front of us again, in a helpful way.
The Lutheran | Loving the enemy: An increasing number of fragile and vulnerable people are in our pews

Friday, March 4, 2011