The Lutheran | Loving the enemy: An increasing number of fragile and vulnerable people are in our pews

Pr. Olbert has written an article that may have saved me from years and years of suffering had I read it 20 years ago. Personality disorders, something I know a great deal about now, wreak damage, suffering and sadness in the church by the bucket load. Thanks to him for placing the pain in front of us again, in a helpful way.
The Lutheran | Loving the enemy: An increasing number of fragile and vulnerable people are in our pews

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